Dated my best friend

Once upon a time I used to date my best friend.

It was not bad between us but if you ever realize that the person in front of you has NOTHING IN COMMON, no matter he is your best friend or the guy you are dating, it is not going well.

First thing is NOBODY has to change the way they are. I do fully agree with it, and never ever force anyone to change for you. This ain’t love. If you both love doing your things which make non of you both unhappy then keep doing but when it makes one of you unhappy then.. quit (relationship) or take step back.

Second, CHANGE. I’m not talking about CHANGE YOURSELF.

I mean you are who you are, show them at first, there is nothing to hide. Do what you feel comfortable not forcing yourself to do for her. Or you are doing it just because you want her to love you. No! never do that! Why?! Because if you do just to make someone fall in love with you, it ain’t natural and if it ain’t natural one day you are going to get tired of doing it. Because it wasn’t comfortable for you to do it and now the girl.. the girl that you have been treating her like that for the whole years just feel used to it for what you have been doing, and one day when you stop. You just left her in feeling of “he changed.” And yes you really did change. So guys if you like someone completely then be yourself, if she doesn’t like the way you are then what? You lose nothing, you lose someone who don’t like the way who you truly are? This should never call as “LOSING” it’s just a passed bus and next coming soon. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Third, IGNORE. not telling what is going on in her/his mind but choose to leave someone wondering what is going on? This ain’t just girls do but dudes do this too.

Sometime we try to keep in touch but dude always keeps ignore and seems like he doesn’t care. If you really don’t care about her or if you want to ignore her for weeks then let’s her go. I mean then let her be free from you. You just give her times to prepare herself to be alone. And what is sad you know? If you do this to the loyal girl she is definitely going down and she will start asking herself if she ever deserves the guy like this? And once when she knows her worth. She will leave you completely and never ever come back again. So what is in your mind, you can just talk.

Anyway, these are just tiny tips for you guys out here. You don’t have to believe what I say but you can try if this happens to your relationships.

I never want to see a couple who has been together over years then they decide to breakup, just because of misunderstanding an important tiny thing. This makes me really sad.

Much Love

xx

Ari ♥️